Motivational speaker Jim Rohn once said that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. We are influenced by what we see, what we hear and what we experience.
If the people around us don’t value taking care of themselves, see the world through a negative filter, and believe the worst is to come…then it’ s likely we’ll begin to adopt that outlook too. Especially when we spend a lot of time with those people.
And yes…it’s occurred to me that I spend the majority of my time with a 3 1/2 and 6 year old who think saying the word poopy is funny… But I digress.
Thankfully, kids don’t count.
Let’s imagine how your forecast of the future is changed when you spend 40-60 hours each week working with co-workers who complain about their jobs all day…or the influence of a long-term relationship with someone who is unhappy in life… or the effects of weekends spent with extended family and friends who are critical of your decisions. It can be life-sucking.
This past weekend, Chris and I got to spend 2 1/2 days with 6 stellar all-stars in the mastermind group we are doing.
Concentrated time with high performance people who are working hard to create a legacy for themselves and their families.
And it was pretty powerful. Not only because their direct feedback and insights for our business will help us improve in what we offer the world. But also because of how much I learned by just watching and listening to each of them throughout the weekend.
Because we are all in the fitness industry, we had similar habits in terms of food and exercise. However, subtle differences in mindset, experience, and attitude were clear. And with those differences, come the opportunity to learn new things.
Things like: the way successful people speak about themselves and others approaches to self-development and improvement being open to others people’s opinions and ideas rituals for maintaining balance and purpose
and above all, the sheer passion to create a legacy for themselves and their family….all while helping others.
Powerful. I’m left with renewed dedication and enthusiasm for my own purpose in life. But I also realize the feeling I have now may fade over time. Unless I DO SOMETHING to maintain it.
And the same is true for you.
Unless we actively prune and maintain an environment of positive and inspiring people and experiences in our own life, we are likely to become a product of our surroundings. That environment could be just average, uninspiring, humdrum. Or it could be negative, like the examples I gave above.
But here’s the thing. It’s our CHOICE.
If you want to see who’s influencing your life, try this simple assessment:
1. Review your current daily routine throughout the entire week. Who are the 5 adults you spend the most time with?
2. What are their qualities, personalities, dreams and aspirations? How do you feel when you’re with them? Excited? Happy? Productive? Drained? Feeling just eh?
3. Review the list and prune if necessary. Is there anyone you need to spend less time with? Or engage less in the course of your week? Is there anyone you’d like to spend MORE time with because of the positivity and dynamic they bring to your life?
4. What else needs to change? Sometimes we love the people in our life but we just aren’t turning our mind to the idea of possibility. We’re caught up in the routine, being pulled along rather than driving the action. Where can you infuse a little surprise, a little fun, a little bit of dreaming?
If we’re thinking about the influences in our life, we probably shouldn’t stop with just people. What else is influencing our outlook? What kinds of magazines, books, articles do you read? What about TV, radio or audiobooks? It all adds up.
We have the power to create the environment and future we want to have for ourselves. Subtle shifts CAN make a difference. The choice is ours.
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